Talk Thirty to Me Episode Thirty Three: The Fear of Parenting is Real
Join Turg and Randy Z as they explore another topic featured in the Netflix Original Series “Master of None” as they go back to Season One Episode Two and talk about the one thing that most 30-somethings can’t seem to wrap their heads around – parenting – and…
Why are kids so scary?
Randy talks about his trip to San Diego and why it was so significant for him. This sets the stage for what comes about as a random conversation into parenting and Turg and Randy get to talking about kids. That’s where Randy’s true, deep-rooted fears surface; Randy doesn’t think he can face the fact of whether he can hack it as a parent.
In Master of None Season 1 Episode 2 there is a strong underlying theme of trying to figure out the next step to take in one’s 30s. The biggest dilemma is always around starting a family and having kids. Does this need to be a thing? Turg relates to this episode as he talks through the early years (still on-going) of parenting and how he struggled to come to terms with his new role in life. A lot of what is shown in this episode of Master of None can be mirrored in thought by millions of people out there – so why is this concept still so foreign? Turg argues that it is because you won’t know it until you’ve lived it. Turg also thinks that it changes the way people perceive their own self and self-worth, but cautions it really has a lot to do with preconceptions and pre-existing disposition.
As a parent, you are the wind and the child is the sailboat
Randy’s concern with parenting branches off into many derivative thoughts about his ability to parent. He feels that finding the balance between guidance and force is a fine line to walk without potentially misdirecting one’s children. How do you influence your child? What’s your style? Turg says that the decision is ultimately the children who control the outcome of their lives based on the experiences they have and use the guidance as a measuring stick for life.
The bachelor’s mentality is strong with this one
Randy knows having kids will change everything, but does he want to give it all up? Turg thinks so. Being selfish is not a negative thing – sometimes we need that time to decompress. Randy thinks sacrifice is an inherent part of becoming a parent, but Turg disagrees. You can have more if you work smarter, earn harder, just buckle down and do more.
Turg says just change that shit. You can do it, you’re in control. Where are you at in life? How have kids either played a role in your life now or how do you think they would impact you in your 30s? And if you haven’t watched Master of None, check it out on Netflix.
Intro Music & Outro Music:
Saturday Jam by Clifton “Notes” Ellens, Captain Noah, and Jonathan “Sankeyz” Sanchez
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